In marriage, the man must see the women as a human being – A human being has hope, aspirations and visions.
After marriage, the woman is still a human being, so her visions, aspirations and hope are not to be covered or buried.
We have allowed traditions to replace the Bible for us in the institution of marriage.
The Bible says that the two shall be one. That is unity. Your reasoning are not the same, but you can always come to a consensus agreement.
There is a superglue that God introduced into marriage, it is called conjugal love. It is higher than any other type of love and second only to the love we have for Christ.
This conjugal love must be higher than the love you have for any being on this world.
When this superglue is not there, nothing can replace it. Then enmity will set in. Lack of trust, hiding from one another, and being authoritative, being over burdensome, and so on will take over.
My sister, do you really and genuinely love your husband?
My brother, do you really and seriously love your wife?
It is a requirement for peace in the home and a demand from the Almighty God.
If you do not have conjugal love for your wife, your life will not be alright and you cannot be in good standing with our Heavenly Father.
You do not have conjugal love for your wife/husband because she/he is good but because it is a requirement and a demand.
The husband is the head. The head does not laud over the other parts of the body. The husband is to love, cherish, defend and help the wife to rise to the call of her Master upon her life.
Wife, you did not marry to get money but to obey the injunctions of Christ upon your life.
We should allow it to be very clear in our hearts that marriage is one-way-traffic. No reverse gear, no U-turn and no neutral gear.